attention seekers

there are mental disorders marked by continual attention-seeking. The American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR) suggests that people with dramatic, emotional, or erratic behavior and thoughts that interfere markedly with day-to-day functioning might be suffering from a personality disorder.

someone who seems to crave and create drama and attention might be experiencing symptoms of histrionic personality disorder (HPD). Only mental health professionals can diagnose this when there is clear evidence that five of the following symptoms occur in various contexts and seem to have begun in early adulthood:

experiences discomfort when not the center of attention
often interacts in inappropriately sexual or seductive ways
displays shallow and rapidly shifting emotions
places extreme value on personal appearance and uses appearance to draw attention to self
speaks with little detail while conveying vague ideas
displays dramatic and theatrical expression of emotion
is easily influenced by others and seems suggestible
thinks interpersonal relationships are more intimate than they really are

You can imagine that people who meet criteria for HPD may experience some negative reactions from other people based on how they behave. Yet, many people with HPD lead relatively successful lives. The problem is that they seem to fall apart when faced with situations where they perceive rejection from others and especially when romantic relationships sour. In fact, break-ups or instances of social rejection often push people with HPD into depression.

Sometimes you wonder what happens to these people when you actually don't give them the attention they seek. I've seen some people crack and try to play mind games by making you feel bad for something that's not even your fault; this blame calls for drama and attention that these types of people tend to want. There are some people in this world that actually cannot get enough attention because of social issues, insecurites and other psychological factors that may be hidden within the person that may have been caused by adolescent problems like family issues. Sometimes when the parents are not there to show compassion, attention, affection, love, and needed guidance to grow as a mature man or woman, these people are very likely to have some attention seeking problems. Some tend to thrive for attention just to stir up drama between people when it is clearly unnecessary. Parent's lack of discipline, morals, love and attention will strongly affect these kinds of people.

When these people grow up with the lack of discipline, morals, love and attention these people tend to seek it from other people. This can be a good thing and a bad thing for the person depending on his or her ability to balance out the 4 things listed above. In relationships old and new, this attention seeker still carries on old habits because it is very hard to change one's values over night. And sometimes you just need to let these people do what they do best: learn the hard way, accept whether or not they get the attention they seek for, realize when they're being irrational only after they feel like an asshole (if person actually let's their pride down for one second to think outside from another POV), love others quickly because of the lack of attention they may not get at home from the loved one they thought should love them back with the proper attention and affection. In some cases where these people are a lost cause and are unable to realize when good help, love, appreciation and affection is right in front of their eyes..ya just gotta say "fuck it, life goes on with or without you"

And my life will be just fine and even better without these types of people. It's less stressful that way.